Body Language – Reading the Signs of Romance From Up Close
♫ Wednesday, May 12th, 2010Lovers’ gaze
At some time into the start of a romance, you will be holding each others gaze for longer and longer periods before looking away. Girls are likely to use what are called ‘doe eyes’ or ‘bedroom eyes’, making their eyes wider. This transfers a state of vulnerability and also is a signal of submission. Wide baby eyes are nature’s way of asking for protection, you can observe them in many species all over the world.Watch what is being looked at. She looks at your lips, she wants to kiss. She looks at another part of your body means “I want to touch”.
Most likely this is accompanied by the pupils getting bigger by dilating. This is a very subtle signal that might be hard to catch in a dark
environment. But, it goes to show why lots of times dark eyed people are considered very attractive.
Leaning In
When someone leans his body towards you while in a conversation, it shows genuine interest. It also says “I would like to be closer to you”. At the same time it’s a good test to check the weather. If you enter someone’s private sphere by leaning toward him or her and your opposite doesn’t back off, that’s a good sign. Leaning can be a small sign, with just the head tilting ever so slightly or with the entire upper body.
But there is a limit, too. The closer you get to a person, the more intimate your body language will get. You will have to watch very closely how close you can get without the other person signals: Enough!
Because by moving too close to the other person, you enter into their personal body space. This clearly suggests that you would rather get even closer, like holding them in your arms or even more.
Along with that goes the way someone positions himself in front of your. By standing square-on to the women of your dreams you are
automatically blocking anyone else from joining the conversation. The signal to others is clear: Stay away.
Copying the image
What we often observe is imitating a person in some way. This shows “I am like you” or “I would like to be like you and be accepted”. The leader of a gang of youths slouches at a table and his peers will do so, too. The kids will use the same slang, gestures and dress code.
The Touch
A lot easier to observe and to notice is touching. This might start with ‘accidental’ brushing, soon to be followed by touching of ‘safe’ parts of the body such as arms, hands or back.
Take advantage and be careful!
If you take the time and look around in a bar or somewhere else where people meet, you are likely to observe lots of clear body language signals, non verbal communications that now make sense. Being able to read certain gestures and behaviours will give you an advantage while flirting. It is also a good idea to be informed about these things when you are about to enter a job interview, for instance.
You will detect motives and intentions behind these little things. But, you need to be careful. Body language is different from person to person.
There are patterns all right, but you are well advised not to jump to conclusions to fast. Just because “She” looks at you longer than a second does not automatically mean she’s yours for the night. It can just as well be because she can’t believe you chose this ridiculous tie with your denim shirt!