There are also other options like these new generic speed dating sites that take you to a local sports bar or restaurant in which they mix and match you with other men but all of these dating sites far and far usually end up not doing the job and at the end of the night you end up either with a man that is not compatible with you or coming home alone. The problem with these dating services is that they cannot possibly get to know these men a personal level. Sure they may try to screen them and asked them questions but let’s be honest, how many single men out there are going to answer personal questions about themselves in an modest way and this is because men have been conditioned to show themselves off at the best possible light to the wood that they are potentially interested in. So where can a single woman go to find a man that is either relationship material or marriage material. The answer is far simpler than you might think.

For a lady to find a good man she must first understand the basic qualities that makes a man married to material. First of all this man must have a very nurturing personality meeting that he is always there for you and wants to help you grow as a person regardless of his own wants and needs. Second of all he must be a very unselfish person that is capable of giving not only in a relationship but also a friendship and to complete strangers. Third he must have a strong faith based system whether it is believe in family, helping your fellow man or a strong faith in God. Where are some places that large groups of men like this reside?

There are basically two places where you could find many men like this at and one of them is that charity groups and the other is that churches. Charity groups are great because you basically have to be a very unselfish person to be helping other people and not getting paid for it. Most women like to meet men at nightclubs and bars but the man that will be there for the long haul is the one you’ll be meeting during a charity event. The reason churches are a great place to meet quality men is that men that go to church have been brought up in a very strong family unit that believes in God and the bond that a man and wife have for each other.

Lovers’ gaze

At some time into the start of a romance, you will be holding each others gaze for longer and longer periods before looking away. Girls are likely to use what are called ‘doe eyes’ or ‘bedroom eyes’, making their eyes wider. This transfers a state of vulnerability and also is a signal of submission. Wide baby eyes are nature’s way of asking for protection, you can observe them in many species all over the world.Watch what is being looked at. She looks at your lips, she wants to kiss. She looks at another part of your body means “I want to touch”.

Most likely this is accompanied by the pupils getting bigger by dilating. This is a very subtle signal that might be hard to catch in a dark
environment. But, it goes to show why lots of times dark eyed people are considered very attractive.

Leaning In

When someone leans his body towards you while in a conversation, it shows genuine interest. It also says “I would like to be closer to you”. At the same time it’s a good test to check the weather. If you enter someone’s private sphere by leaning toward him or her and your opposite doesn’t back off, that’s a good sign. Leaning can be a small sign, with just the head tilting ever so slightly or with the entire upper body.

But there is a limit, too. The closer you get to a person, the more intimate your body language will get. You will have to watch very closely how close you can get without the other person signals: Enough!

Because by moving too close to the other person, you enter into their personal body space. This clearly suggests that you would rather get even closer, like holding them in your arms or even more.

Along with that goes the way someone positions himself in front of your. By standing square-on to the women of your dreams you are
automatically blocking anyone else from joining the conversation. The signal to others is clear: Stay away.

Copying the image

What we often observe is imitating a person in some way. This shows “I am like you” or “I would like to be like you and be accepted”. The leader of a gang of youths slouches at a table and his peers will do so, too. The kids will use the same slang, gestures and dress code.

The Touch

A lot easier to observe and to notice is touching. This might start with ‘accidental’ brushing, soon to be followed by touching of ‘safe’ parts of the body such as arms, hands or back.

Take advantage and be careful!

If you take the time and look around in a bar or somewhere else where people meet, you are likely to observe lots of clear body language signals, non verbal communications that now make sense. Being able to read certain gestures and behaviours will give you an advantage while flirting. It is also a good idea to be informed about these things when you are about to enter a job interview, for instance.

You will detect motives and intentions behind these little things. But, you need to be careful. Body language is different from person to person.

There are patterns all right, but you are well advised not to jump to conclusions to fast. Just because “She” looks at you longer than a second does not automatically mean she’s yours for the night. It can just as well be because she can’t believe you chose this ridiculous tie with your denim shirt!