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		<title>How To Plan A Romantic Honeymoon Getaway</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 May 2012 09:26:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[All honeymoons, regardless of the place visited or activities done, are always unforgettable. But generally, not all honeymoons are romantic. So, what makes a romantic honeymoon? Is it the place? The activities? The mood? A honeymoon will only be romantic if it is shared by two people who truly love each other. How to plan [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>All honeymoons, regardless of the place visited or activities done, are always unforgettable. But generally, not all honeymoons are romantic. So, what makes a romantic honeymoon? Is it the place? The activities? The mood? A honeymoon will only be romantic if it is shared by two people who truly love each other.</p>
<p>How to plan a romantic honeymoon</p>
<p>Planning and organising a romantic honeymoon must be a joint effort between you and your partner. The first thing to do is to determine your budget. Try to assess your financial capabilities and figure out the amount of money you can afford to spend. Honeymooners have a tendency to be overwhelmed by the wedding and the honeymoon that they sometimes end up spending more than they are allowed to. You must remember that your romantic honeymoon is only the start of your life together. After weeks of wedded bliss in a Caribbean island or a European city, you still have to go back to your home. You have to buy food, pay rent and settle bills. Try not to spend all your hard-earned money on a week-long romantic honeymoon.</p>
<p>After determining your budget, you and your partner should decide on a specific romantic honeymoon destination. The decision on where to spend your romantic honeymoon should neither come from you nor your partner alone. It should be an agreement made by both of you. You can&#8217;t fly to Singapore just because you want to or sail to Tasmania because your partner wants to. Choose a destination that you both want to visit for a romantic honeymoon getaway.</p>
<p>Where to find a romantic honeymoon package</p>
<p>The person to ask when it comes to romantic honeymoon packages is a travel agent. A travel agent is a person who specialises in providing information about all your travel needs. The basic services offered by a travel agent include flight bookings, hotel reservations, ticket issuing and requirement processing. A travel agent will not only help in choosing the perfect romantic honeymoon package for you and your partner, but will also arrange everything you need to enjoy your honeymoon.</p>
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		<title>Tips for Planning Your Honeymoon</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 May 2012 09:25:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The honeymoon is a once in a lifetime special vacation that newlyweds go on shortly after their wedding. It is often known as the most expensive vacation the couple takes in their lives. There are all-inclusive resorts specially for honeymooners and there are also adventurous locations for all types of tourists. Weather This is the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The honeymoon is a once in a lifetime special vacation that newlyweds go on shortly after their wedding. It is often known as the most expensive vacation the couple takes in their lives. There are all-inclusive resorts specially for honeymooners and there are also adventurous locations for all types of tourists. </p>
<p>Weather</p>
<p>This is the most important thing you want to access prior to choosing your honeymoon destination. If you are going to an island or tropical place, make sure it won’t be raining and overcast your whole trip. Different countries and parts of the world have different summers, rainy seasons, hurricanes, snow storms, etc. Do your research to assure that you and your beau will have a great time and be comfortable.</p>
<p>Type of Destination</p>
<p>This might be the hardest thing to agree on if you and your spouse have differing interests. Some couples are adventurous and love to go on safaris, skiing, or hikes. Those couples have to go to destinations that offer their special activity. The most popular honeymoon type is tropical paradise. Some couples like to go the common tourist route and hit up the spots to see like world-famous museums, world wonders, or foreign cultures. Once you and your man agree on a type of destination, the rest is easier.</p>
<p>The Hard Working Couple</p>
<p>Often times when both the bride and groom have demanding full-time jobs, the wedding/honeymoon leave they get from work will be the longest vacation their boss will ever allow them. Take advantage of this and visit a multiple islands, countries, sites, whatever. This ensures that you won’t get bored in one place for too long and that you’re putting your vacation time to good use.</p>
<p>When choosing a destination for your honeymoon, don’t be timid. Do extensive research online to find the best weather, great activities, beautiful location, and take advantage of all your resources. Search every affordable option and ask around for friends’ opinions. </p>
<p>Happy Honeymoon Hunting</p>
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		<title>How To Take Care Of Women&#8217;s Issues</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Apr 2012 04:41:16 +0000</pubDate>
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				<category><![CDATA[Women's Issues]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Being a woman can be such a toilsome thing, particularly when there are so many little things that we have to deal with, but here are some ways to take care of yourself. Once a month we endure agonizing cramps, bloating, and emotional moodswings that can really take a toll on oneself and also make [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Being a woman can be such a toilsome thing, particularly when there are so many little things that we have to deal with, but here are some ways to take care of yourself. Once a month we endure agonizing cramps, bloating, and emotional moodswings that can really take a toll on oneself and also make others around you feel like you have gone crazy. </p>
<p>In fact, as if the aching, tearing pain of cramps wasn&#8217;t enough, the psychological effects seem to be just as trying, as you swing from being so sad to see a man eating lettuce to getting searing mad when your friend forgets to say hello to you and then you feel bloated and heavy and lethargic and in a miserable state of pain.</p>
<p>One way to reduce this pain is to take some medication and to make sure that you take it right when the pain starts so that you can tackle it right from the get go. You can try your best to make sure that you do your best to take the medication right at the start of the pain coming so that you can get the best effects.</p>
<p>Also eating some chocolate can help because of the content of the cocoa beans and you can feel some relief, too, psychologically as chocolate has been known to induce happiness and make a person feel better. When you feel your mood swinging, try to stay calm and do things that will help you feel a little better like being around people you love and care about.</p>
<p>You can handle them with ease because being a woman is all about being strong in the face of calamities. One thing that often affects the hearts of many women are the trials they endure from cruel men. This can often cause low self esteem and can make a woman feel badly about herself after a time or two. </p>
<p>Well remember to never let a man get you down, just like you can not let cramps get the best of you, because there is a medication for both things, men and cramps, and that is time, just give it some time and after a while you will see that neither hurt you anymore and you do not have to feel badly about yourself because it is a natural part of life.</p>
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		<title>Top 5 Flirting Tips For Men</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Apr 2012 12:51:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Flirting is the first step in any intimate relationship. This is what starts the fire and creates the attraction. Most importantly, flirting defines a mans success with women. So let&#8217;s jump into the top 5 flirting tips for men: Flirting Tips #1 &#8211; Have Physical Connection You need to start communicating through physical communication. Flirting [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Flirting is the first step in any intimate relationship. This is what starts the fire and creates the attraction. Most importantly, flirting defines a mans success with women. So let&#8217;s jump into the top 5 flirting tips for men:</p>
<p>Flirting Tips #1 &#8211; Have Physical Connection</p>
<p>You need to start communicating through physical communication. Flirting with physical communication is much more powerful than flirting through verbal communication. The first step, is to touch/grab her hand. I do this by seeing something interesting and then grabbing her hand to get her attention and point it out. Another easy way is if you are in a crowded scene and you move somewhere else, grab her hand and take her there instead of just having her follow. Palm reading also works. When I&#8217;m holding her hand, I will gently squeeze it and then toss it away as if she said something that could be offensive in some little way. She will feel that empty void on her hand after that and want to feel it again. You could also playfully slap her hand away if she is grabbing for something.</p>
<p>After you initiate the touch in a safe way, wait for her to touch you back. If she touches you back, then you are set to keep pursuing. If she doesn&#8217;t, you might want to consider she is not ready for that and you need to back off a little. Most importantly, if she is touching you, then she feels you are a safe man to be with. And finding safe men is one of the most important things to women. This is a touchy subject, and if applied at the right time, you are golden.</p>
<p>Flirting Tips #2 &#8211; Leave on a high &#8211; get her laughing</p>
<p>The most important part of a conversation is the same as the most important part of a speech, and that is the ending. The way you end and the feeling you give in that ending is what lasts and makes the final imprint about yourself. It&#8217;s the same thing as molding clay &#8211; you can mold clay however you want, but when you leave it, and it dries, that is what you have to remember it by.</p>
<p>For example, if you are planning on meeting up, don&#8217;t end off saying, &#8220;ya we will see you then, bye.&#8221; You want to end off with her laughing. So instead, say something like, &#8220;yeah just try not to embarrass me.&#8221; or &#8220;Don&#8217;t forget to paint your toe nails.&#8221; or &#8220;This is where you say you can&#8217;t wait to see me and hope you can keep your hands to yourself.&#8221;</p>
<p>Flirting Tips #3 &#8211; Qualify, Qualify, Qualify</p>
<p>Men have a huge problem with this. When we see a woman we want to puruse, we think selling ourselves is going to make her want us. NO, that doesn&#8217;t work. In fact it does the opposite and takes away the challenge and her desire to pursue you. Basically, we want what we can&#8217;t have. So make yourself hard to obtain by qualifying her.</p>
<p>Some ways to qualify is to ask her questions about something she is wearing or something she did or is doing, and then really listen to her response, &#8220;That&#8217;s a cool necklace, did you get it traveling?&#8221; Another great flirting tip when qualifying is to turn the tables by taking the role that women like to take, &#8220;So are you going to ask me out or what?&#8221; or &#8220;You didn&#8217;t just tell me you liked hiking to get me to like you, did you?&#8221; Just remember to always give your approval when interacting.</p>
<p>Flirting Tips #4 &#8211; Props</p>
<p>This is a very easy one and it works really well for flirting. First understand that women search for tips on flirting with men 3 times more than men do. It&#8217;s because women want to flirt with men, but wouldn&#8217;t know what to say if they approached you. If you were to have something (a prop) to talk about, women would feel much more comfortable approaching you. Remember, when you are talking, you can have a set prop that you can use to be flirty instead of having to shoot into the wind all the time.</p>
<p>For instance, you could have a bandana that hangs out of your pocket or a hat that stands out or just a shirt that says something funny. Then, when they ask about the bandana you can say something like, &#8220;it was a ruff time in my life I don&#8217;t think we are good enough friends to talk about this yet&#8221; then you can go into some funny story or whatever you want. The most important thing about this flirting tip is that it breaks the ice and gets the conversation rolling.</p>
<p>Flirting Tips #5 &#8211; Flirt through texting | Flirting through text messages</p>
<p>Being successful with women is becoming easier and easier for men. Why? Because text messaging and sms text messages have become an integral part in everyday communication. This is a gold mine for men! It gives you time to get the right message (which also improves your real world flirting), and you can interact with more than one woman at once to increase your chances. It&#8217;s definitely a confidence builder. Most importantly, it cuts out all the attraction triggers that can normally work against you, such as your clothes, smile, breath, hair etc&#8230; so all you&#8217;re left with are words and timing. Flirting has never been so easy!</p>
<p>Once you get the right words at the right time, you can expect a ton of success with women. And since most men fail at flirting in texting, you will stand above the rest, and you&#8217;ll see a lot of women responding desirably to you.</p>
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		<title>Single WWW for February 2012</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2012 02:31:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Single WWW for February 2012 discusses Dating Directory. Single WWW contains the related links to dating online, personal ads, romance, singles, religious dating, love, relationships, lifestyles, divorce.]]></description>
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Single WWW for February 2012 discusses <a href="http://www.singlewww.com/">Dating Directory</a>. Single WWW contains the related links to dating online, personal ads, romance, singles, religious dating, love, relationships, lifestyles, divorce.</p>
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		<title>Site of the Month for July 2011</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Aug 2011 03:35:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Site of the Month for July 2011 talks of Romance Information. Romance Directory is online Romance Web Directory &#8211; aims to provide links to romance sites including Dating Ideas, Romance Novels, Love Astrology, Love Letters, Symbols of Love, Romantic Travel and more.]]></description>
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Site of the Month for July 2011 talks of <a href="http://www.romancedirectory.info/">Romance Information</a>. Romance Directory is online Romance Web Directory &#8211; aims to provide links to romance sites including Dating Ideas, Romance Novels, Love Astrology, Love Letters, Symbols of Love, Romantic Travel and more.</p>
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		<title>Tips to Find an Honest Russian Bride Online</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Jun 2011 06:25:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jonathan Robertson</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The business of providing Russian brides online has grown exponentially and there are dozens of different agencies that provide men with a chance to choose from loads of Russian brides. As a matter of fact, it is believed that fifty-four percent of men seeking Russian brides have in fact succeeded in finding their soul mates. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The business of providing Russian brides online has grown exponentially and there are dozens of different agencies that provide men with a chance to choose from loads of Russian brides. As a matter of fact, it is believed that fifty-four percent of men seeking Russian brides have in fact succeeded in finding their soul mates.</p>
<p>If they scour the Internet they cannot fail to notice the plethora of social networking sites that offer interested men a wonderful opportunity to find an honest and attractive Russian bride. These websites are filled with photographs of exceedingly attractive Russian women who also have a good career going for them &#8211; perhaps they are lawyers or doctors or even dentists.</p>
<p>Before you actually start your online search for the perfect Russian bride you need to become aware of the many pitfalls and also the many scams that are doing the rounds. Many dating sites also ask that you pay a fee upfront before allowing you to make contact with those pretty Russian women whose photographs populate such websites.</p>
<p>It certainly will also pay to find out what methods a dating site uses to help you connect with the Russian women members. Some sites might use compatibility as a criterion while others simply allow you to browse profiles and choose whoever you wish to connect with.</p>
<p>Having paid your fee you will then get access to all the lovely Russian brides and this is when you can start picking and choosing and then you can make contact with them. Even now, you will need to proceed with caution as there may be a honey-trap being set to trap you. Many of the ladies whose photographs are displayed may not even be real ladies and in fact it could be a front for someone that is out to scam you. So, don&#8217;t allow your guard to drop &#8211; even for a minute.</p>
<p>Finally, learning how to find a honest Russian bride online also means that to maximize your chances of succeeding you should write to quite a few prospective Russian brides. And, also let her view your photographs and don&#8217;t be disheartened if a particular Russian lady does not respond to you. They may have different tastes; as long as you keep trying chances are that soon you will find an honest Russian bride.</p>
<p>Browse free personal ads of beautiful Russian girls and ladies to find a Russian wife at <a href="http://dream-marriage.com">international online dating service</a>. <a href="http://dream-marriage.com">Dream-Marriage.com</a> is a premier, personalized, online-international marriage agency where member’s satisfaction is their primary focus. They provide their members with a safe and secure environment to communicate with each other in order to initiate that very special relationship. Additionally, they present the most ground-breaking technology to make communication as &#8220;live&#8221; as possible, including a venue to communicate via email, Chat, Chat Date and Live Video.</p>
<p>Finding your dream Russian woman has never been easier. Simply fill out their Free Profile and sign up for a Free 3-day Trial which you can cancel at any time. Your Future Russian Lady might be Online right now!</p>
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		<title>Save Your Marriage By Romance Actions</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Jun 2011 09:43:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>James Copper</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The romance shared by the married couple may seem to change from what were familiar routines, into new and unfamiliar behaviors they do not yet understand. The relationship grows and seems to go through phases, leading the couple looking for reassurance that their romance is still intact. Eventually, the degree of romance gradually changes, and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The romance shared by the married couple may seem to change from what were familiar routines, into new and unfamiliar behaviors they do not yet understand. The relationship grows and seems to go through phases, leading the couple looking for reassurance that their romance is still intact.  Eventually, the degree of romance gradually changes, and the passion once felt is no longer the predominant feature of the marriage – or as it was in the beginning. This is perfectly natural and healthy as we continue to evolve in ways that occur naturally. This does not imply that your partner no longer loves you or that your marriage means anything less than it did at the onset.</p>
<p>For some, marriage was convenient, or even coerced. Many marry for the wrong reasons which in time, always reveal themselves and expose the true nature (motives) of the individual. The notion of divorce implies selfishness or an internal conflict that needs to be resolved.  Do you really want to be with someone who doesn&#8217;t want to be with you? Should you resort to self-preservation or seek out reasons to save your marriage? Life is hard enough without the added burden of trying to create something (out of nothing) that never existed in the first place. If you share the experience of diminishing romance in your relationship, and feel it has interfered with your ability (or your partner&#8217;s ability) to participate in an ongoing commitment – then it is time to re-evaluate the status of your marriage, distinguish what is genuine and what is contrived, and consider alternatives that can determine whether taking action now can save your marriage, and secure your future together.</p>
<p>Many events and circumstances arise which interfere with the normal flow of your lives as a couple. Whether it is work, illness, kids or family issues, or other responsibilities, chances are that romance has suffered as a result. This does not mean that the love and devotion have any less significance for either of you. This seeming change of behavior is probably the most misunderstood, and the most severely misinterpreted.</p>
<p>People grow, and evolve over time, and so do our interests and experiences.  This does not mean that they no longer need the love, intimacy, and security that marriage provides. Quite the opposite, actually….for most couples, the love, companionship, intimacy, and romance have significantly more meaning than they ever could have in the past. The decision to save a marriage and avoid divorce is based on a more comprehensive understanding of the<br />
process of the natural course of personal growth and development occurring &#8211; the capacity to accept the apparent changes that are innate to the process of maturation. Through growth and maturity you increase respect for the value that your marriage holds, and come to embrace the value of family as well. It takes time and experience to realize the appreciation and real value that marriage and family truly represent for you.</p>
<p>Another factor to be mindful of is whether you and your partner&#8217;s needs are being met adequately. As romance becomes expected rather than spontaneous, one or both of you may begin to feel insecure, or feel the absence of intimacy, and begin to show signs of resentment, withdrawal, and that something is missing. You both have the sensitivity to recognize when your partner needs the attention he or she values. You will not always be in sync with each other during the course of your day to day functions and responsibilities. You need to communicate this and reaffirm the bond you share.</p>
<p>Often simple tasks or gestures can be all that occurs to let your spouse know that you haven&#8217;t forgotten about him or her. Take time out, or better yet, make time to just do stuff together without interference. Offer to help doing routine maintenance or chores around the house, or maybe admit that you need help in making some decisions (about anything) requiring their input.  Include each other when possible in daily activities or (send) an invitation to stop everything and go for a walk together. Be creative. Even the smallest gestures can go a long way in preserving your bond, and ultimately may be just enough to save your marriage. Talk about your sexual expectations &#8211; or lack thereof.  When your partner offers feedback of any nature, an issue will surface, and you now have an opportunity to contribute to the subject. Be open to suggestions – your spouse by now has put a lot of thought into this already. Any way you choose to participate, will go a long way and will be deeply appreciated.  Keep it simple. </p>
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		<title>Life After Polygamy</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 May 2011 03:47:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Jan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Imagine growing up in a place where every decision is made for you from the time of your birth. Imagine knowing that your entire life is already planned out. Imagine a place where men have total control over you and you know you will never experience true love. Imagine knowing that you will share that [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Imagine growing up in a place where every decision is made for you from the time of your birth. Imagine knowing that your entire life is already planned out. Imagine a place where men have total control over you and you know you will never experience true love. Imagine knowing that you will share that husband with other women for the rest of eternity. Imagine a place where you merely exist, with no hopes or dreams of a beautiful future. Imagine the stronghold that those beliefs have over your mind.</p>
<p>That place is not in a third world county but in the heart of America and it is the place I was born and raised. I was born in a small polygamist commune in the remote mountains of Montana. My parents had been excommunicated by the Mormon Church for their desires to practice polygamy among other doctrines no longer supported by the Church. The members of my commune took it upon themselves to live the fundamental teachings once held by the Mormon Church. As a child I was rarely exposed to the outside world and knew little about the beliefs outside our limited and restrictive teachings. I simply knew that we were God&#8217;s chosen people and the rest of the world was a source of evil and destruction. That consorting with Gentiles from the outside could lead to eternal damnation.</p>
<p>Nearly every waking moment of my upbringing was consumed with indoctrination into our unique culture and beliefs. I knew almost from the time I was born that the solitary purpose for my existence was to procreate. To marry a righteous man who could take me to heaven and to provide him with children as evidence of my willingness to serve him and God. That I was to revere my husband, and all men as my leaders and representatives of God. My beliefs were molded and shaped, providing me with the platform to someday become the woman I was expected to become.</p>
<p>As I grew I became increasingly aware of my expectations to provide my future husband with other wives. To support him in the Law of Celestial Marriage, a law given by God only to His chosen few, those worthy of attaining the highest degree of the Celestial Kingdom. There were men my community who counted themselves among the great men in the Bible, men such as Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, King Solomon and even Jesus. Great men who had been hand picked by God to live His most sacred principle. I was reminded that I had been chosen in the pre-existence to marry one of those men and spend an eternity by his side.</p>
<p>Being raised in that holiest of places as the members viewed it and providing my husband with other wives was not only my obligation, but the greatest privilege that could be bestowed upon me. It was taught that polygamy was given only to the few chosen worthy and that it was predestined for me. It meant that God had chosen me to become a Goddess in the life hereafter, a gift provided only to the purest of women. And that as a Goddess it was my fortune to spend eternity birthing spirit children for my husband who would someday rule his own planet. That my sister wives and I would share in the gratification of being married to a God.</p>
<p>But even as a young girl the message of being chosen for that destiny did not resonate with me. I was a precocious and strong-willed child not easily bent to the ways of my father and the desires of the men in my community. I questioned the beliefs held by my religious doctrine and I rebelled against everything my leaders attempted to instill in me. Something in my soul told me that my supposedly predestined life was not the life for me. The call from the outside world tugged at my heart and lured me out of my community. The place that was intended to keep me sheltered from the world outside was in actuality my prison.</p>
<p>Education and career were unnecessary for the future that been carefully crafted for me, but after much debate and coercion of my parents I was allowed to attend public high school, unaware and unsuspecting of what lay ahead for me. My naivete about people outside my small and secretive sect left me unwittingly prepared for the cruelty of the real world. I did my best to conceal my feelings of fear and inadequacy. I made every attempt to &#8220;fit in&#8221; and become one of the outsiders I had been taught all of my life were agents of the devil. In my innocence I suffered every abuse imaginable at the hands of my peers. Unable to cope with the pressures and drama of high school I gave up and retreated back into my commune. I faded away into the teachings of my religion, accepting that perhaps my safety and happiness resided in the dogmatic truths it presented.</p>
<p>But my internal suffering did not end, rather it was exacerbated. I was tormented by the abuses I had received as a child at the hands of men in my community. They had abused my body, my mind and my spirit and driven me to look elsewhere for my fulfillment. I was tormented by my inability to accept the religious doctrine and destiny they attempted to sell me. And I was tormented by the loss of my innocence that the world had stolen from me. I had lost my purity, my value and the hope of Celestial life. I wanted nothing more than to die and end my torment, but fear of spending an eternity in Hell prevented me from taking my own life.</p>
<p>Desperation forced me to choose between two worlds, both of which had hurt me beyond any measure of what I could have imagined as a child, choose between two worlds, neither of which I felt I belonged. I chose to leave the supposed protective place of my youth and take my chances alone in outside world. At the age of seventeen I chose to create my own destiny.</p>
<p>Transitioning from communal living with less than five hundred members to living in the heart of Salt Lake City was not simple. I had only one friend and no plans for my life. I had no education, no life skills and the social etiquette of a toddler. I was physically free from the restrictive way of my upbringing but I unknowingly was far from free of the emotional hold my experiences had over me.</p>
<p>I was spiritually confused and emotionally trapped in guilt, fear and misery. I searched desperately for a way to cope with my emotions through sex, drugs, alcohol and food. Unable to communicate I was taken advantage of physically, sexually and monetarily. I wanted acceptance so desperately I attached myself to anyone who took notice of me then subsequently destroyed every opportunity and relationship in my path as I clung frantically to both, or ran away without provocation at the slightest hint of rejection or confrontation.</p>
<p>In an effort to find some sense of meaning in my life and gain control over the chaos I joined the Mormon Church hoping that joining with the mother church would help me find my happiness. But I never felt comfortable or at home. Never knowing what the Church believed in contrast to my upbringing I stayed silent. The fear of judgment and ridicule prevented me from admitting to anyone the truth about my childhood. The silence drove me deeper into despair.</p>
<p>In an effort to disguise myself I became a chameleon and attempted to blend in. I did everything I could to hide the pain I felt inside, afraid that if my truths were discovered I would be institutionalized and forgotten. I hid myself behind a veil of deception, pretending everything was okay while inside I was dying. I wore the right clothes, had the right apartment and socialized with the right people. I listened to the latest music, bought the latest fashions and wore the latest hairstyles, hoping to be accepted. But the acceptance I needed most was acceptance of myself.</p>
<p>I knew I needed professional help but therapy was not a financial option. I was forced to find my own way of coping with the emotions and heal myself from the trauma of my past. I searched for an answer that would lead me to feel comfortable in my own skin and the world around me. As a regimen of self-therapy I immersed myself into every self-help book made available to me. I encased myself in a cold hard shell as I retreated away from society and into myself, and I began the process of internal transformation. Forcing myself to be alone with only me I connected with myself. I learned how to go within, to analyze myself and change myself. I created my own spiritual and personal beliefs outside the confines of religious and social expectations. I created a relationship with myself and I began to appreciate who I was and the possibility of who I could become. I began to develop into the woman I was truly born to be, a far cry from the woman my childhood had attempted to groom me to be.</p>
<p>Those were lonely years with few friends and no meaning other than to define who I was, who I wanted to be and what I wanted for my life. I felt as though I was treading water with no direction or purpose, but inside I could feel myself growing and changing a little every day. Then, when I was ready, I emerged from my chrysalis a mere shadow of the girl I had once been. The scars from my childhood had healed and the religious dogma of my youth no longer controlled my mind. There was no guilt, no resentment and no blame. Only an open road ahead of me that became more beautiful than any of my childhood fantasies.</p>
<p>My journey into self-discovery was not an easy one. It was a process that spanned several years and a dozen different cities. But it was a journey I needed to take, not just for myself but as an example to others of what is possible. Maintaining my freedom hasn&#8217;t always been effortless as my past attempts to gain control over my mind from time to time. But I am the one in control and I choose the direction of my life. My future is not predestined by anyone or anything outside myself.</p>
<p>Not long after I left home and ventured out on my own I overheard a conversation between two women. In their own self-indignation they commented how kids who grow up in overly protective homes go crazy once they are let out, that they think they have to try everything their parents didn&#8217;t allow them to try. I knew that wasn&#8217;t true, at least not for me. I wasn&#8217;t out of control with curiosity and rebellion in my newly found freedom. I was simply trying everything that came to me out of desperation for acceptance by others my age, and as a way to cope with my feelings of being judged by other people&#8217;s standards.</p>
<p>Over the years I&#8217;ve kept in touch to varying degrees with others who left my commune when they were young. In nearly every case each of those young lives were emotionally tormented and escape from the torment was buried in drug and alcohol abuse, some quite severe. Those young souls were besieged with guilt for not being who their parents had expected them to be. They were overwhelmed by the judgment and lack of support from supposed friends and family for their wayward ways. They were weighed down by the inability of the world to accept them for who they were and where they came from. They felt ridiculed and shamed for a past they could not control. They faced a complicated and unforgiving world without the tools to manage and navigate their way. Many of them eventually turned to the Mormon Church who embraced them and took them in as lost sheep, while others are still, years later, struggling to find their way in the world.</p>
<p>Life after Polygamy was difficult for me, as I know it is for others who have the desire and courage to make the transition. Learning to cope with the real world takes time, patience and vigilance. Those who are able to free themselves from the confines of the polygamist lifestyle require support and understanding as they attempt to adjust to a world much bigger and potentially more cruel than they could have imagined. With our compassion they will discover a world of freedom and enlightenment well worth fighting for.</p>
<p>Victoria M. Reynolds is a leader in the movement for positive personal change. Through her own life experiences she shares with others the process of moving into a joy filled life.</p>
<p>As a child Victoria knew only the physical, emotional and spiritual constraints of living in the absolute control of her religion. She was born into a polygamist commune where she spent her childhood being indoctrinated into a life she knew was not right for her.</p>
<p>At the age of seventeen out of desperation, Victoria found her way out of the commune and into the world she had been taught her entire life to fear. She chose to leave behind everything she knew and go in search of her own truth and happiness.</p>
<p>Through her writings and teachings Victoria inspires others to move past fear and live in their own inner truth</p>
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		<title>Great Places to Find Romance</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Feb 2011 06:22:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>admin</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Romance Advices & Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dating Advice]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[There are also other options like these new generic speed dating sites that take you to a local sports bar or restaurant in which they mix and match you with other men but all of these dating sites far and far usually end up not doing the job and at the end of the night [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There are also other options like these new generic speed dating sites that take you to a local sports bar or restaurant in which they mix and match you with other men but all of these dating sites far and far usually end up not doing the job and at the end of the night you end up either with a man that is not compatible with you or coming home alone. The problem with these dating services is that they cannot possibly get to know these men a personal level. Sure they may try to screen them and asked them questions but let&#8217;s be honest, how many single men out there are going to answer personal questions about themselves in an modest way and this is because men have been conditioned to show themselves off at the best possible light to the wood that they are potentially interested in. So where can a single woman go to find a man that is either relationship material or marriage material. The answer is far simpler than you might think.</p>
<p>For a lady to find a good man she must first understand the basic qualities that makes a man married to material. First of all this man must have a very nurturing personality meeting that he is always there for you and wants to help you grow as a person regardless of his own wants and needs. Second of all he must be a very unselfish person that is capable of giving not only in a relationship but also a friendship and to complete strangers. Third he must have a strong faith based system whether it is believe in family, helping your fellow man or a strong faith in God. Where are some places that large groups of men like this reside?</p>
<p>There are basically two places where you could find many men like this at and one of them is that charity groups and the other is that churches. Charity groups are great because you basically have to be a very unselfish person to be helping other people and not getting paid for it. Most women like to meet men at nightclubs and bars but the man that will be there for the long haul is the one you&#8217;ll be meeting during a charity event. The reason churches are a great place to meet quality men is that men that go to church have been brought up in a very strong family unit that believes in God and the bond that a man and wife have for each other.</p>
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